Children, like no other, trust the words of adults. Therefore, we have a great responsibility.
It is parents who form the attitude of the child to school. Later, when he settles among his classmates, he will be able to decide for himself whether he likes the school or not. But the mood that his parents gave him a huge role.
It doesn’t matter whether you loved school or hated it in childhood, it is important to make your child like it there. He will go there for the next 9-11 years, and it will be great if these years will be remembered to him as the best. And for this it is important to form the right attitude towards school.
Often it is our negative statements that children believe in that help to hate the entire school system, including teachers.
10. Never Say Anything Bad About School
The child's attitude towards her is formed long before he crosses the threshold of school. Try not to spoil his first impression.
Even if your memories of the school are not as bright as you would like, your child’s things can turn out differently. He has his own class, his teachers, even the era, his own time, so do not compare.
If you want him to be comfortable, try not to speak out about school in a negative way. And this applies not only to memories.
After September 1, you may be outraged by something in the school system. Never talk about it with a child. You can not undermine the authority of the school and teachers in his eyes, otherwise how will you demand that he obey the rules? Try to talk about them only good things.
Your childhood and youth, whether you like it or not, were associated with the school, i.e. you should have good memories. This is what the child should be told. Remember how you played at breaks, how you went to museums together, remember funny cases, show your child your old albums. A positive attitude will help him quickly get used to school and make friends with the guys himself.
9. It is forbidden for children to criticize teachers
Now each parent has the opportunity to choose a school for the child. It is not necessary to go to study at a residence permit. If you consciously came to this school, to this class, what's the point of resenting? Then they would choose another school and another teacher.
If there are problems, misunderstandings, they need to be addressed. But peacefully, by talking, without undermining the authority of the teacher. If you think that he is incompetent, you can not say this, especially in the presence of a child. You will forget about it, but he will not, and he will go to this class for a few more years and gain knowledge.
How can he study normally, respect the teacher if he is sure that he is facing a bad teacher? But it is precisely in the elementary grades that the foundation of education is laid, without the ability to read and count well, the child will not be able to study well.
8. You should not be angry if the child was given homework
It can be difficult for children to adapt to school. Therefore, in the first year of study they are not given marks, they set a minimum of homework. But if your teacher decided that the children should study after class, do not argue with that.
Experienced teachers know how many lessons can be given to children. In addition, they cannot deviate from the school curriculum. If you do not like it, it seems too complicated, you had to take care of this in advance, choose a different school.
Nobody wants to overload the children; neither teachers nor the school principal can have such goals. Do not set up your child and encourage him not to do homework, because this will make it difficult to socialize.
7. You can’t demand special treatment for your child
This is for you it is special, the best and most intelligent. But the teacher should not have favorites. No matter how many children are in the class, he is obliged to devote time to everyone.
Never demand that your child be praised, constantly asked, and given out. Remember that this will not end in anything good.
You work with children to make them smarter, to develop and expand their horizons, and not for the sake of praising other people or marks.
6. Do not overload the child
The first year of schooling is very important for the child. Adaptation takes place, he gets used to school, new friends, teacher. At this time, it is very important that he feels good in the new environment.
But sometimes it’s the parents who prevent it. They record it in many different circles. As a result, the child constantly walks tired, does not get enough sleep, begins to lag behind in the school curriculum.
If you see that he does not have time, your task is to reduce the load. The child should have a happy childhood with games, walks in the fresh air. Mugs are also needed, but so that these activities are fun, rather than overloading it.
5. Do not choose a “strong” school if the child is uncomfortable there
Of course, we all would like to raise smart, successful children. But everyone has their own abilities. Someone is well versed in mathematics, so it makes sense to send him to the appropriate school. Someone likes to sing or dance, it is advisable to develop it in this direction, and not torment with formulas and theorems.
The school should not be “prestigious”, the school should correspond to the child, it should be comfortable in it, so that it could develop, study with pleasure, and not from under the stick.
4. Parents should not "go in cycles" on performance of lessons
Often you can hear dissatisfied statements of parents that their children do not want to do homework. But, if you think about it, there is nothing surprising in this. And who wants to do boring or boring work? Therefore, this behavior of the child is natural.
Do not scold him and reproach him for it. Thus, you only instill hatred of the school. If the child is difficult, he needs help. And encourage self-study of lessons.
3. For poor schooling, the child must be punished
The relationship between parents and children, where one judge and the other is the defendant, will bring nothing good.
Remember that the first years in school for a child is a test. And during this period, the house for him should become a kind of "rear", a place where you can come to calm down and relax.
If you turn it into a place of military operations, academic performance will not increase it, and the child’s psyche can seriously spoil.
2. For good study, you can not give gifts or, moreover, pay money
Thus, you inspire the child that everything in the world is for sale. We all learn something throughout our lives. And we do not demand money for it. Mom cooks and cleans the house after work, and nobody pays for it. Dad or grandmother raise children for free, go shopping, etc.
We get paid because they themselves agreed to do this work for money. And study is something else, it is self-development, which is necessary for the child himself.
1. The child does not have the right to get a bad mark
There are thousands of reasons that explain why he suddenly "slipped to triples." Maybe he didn’t understand some topic, maybe he was ill for a long time and fell behind his classmates, maybe tired or in love.
There can be many reasons. It is important to understand your baby, to help him, because the children are still lonely, weak and defenseless, and it depends only on us whether we can give them a happy childhood.