Some girls blindly run into the arms of a guy who made him an offer of marriage. Sometimes it’s better to stop and ask yourself and your partner serious questions that will give you answers whether it is worth making a planned marriage.
Moments that you should pay attention to before you say “yes”, we have examined in detail in our top.
10. Do you have doubts
You should not marry if in your relationship with a partner everything is not going smoothly even at the stage of ordinary meetings. For example, a man cannot forget his ex. Do not hope that the stamp in the passport will provide him with amnesia. Or for him it is important to travel 100 kilometers to the country every weekend, and you doubt whether you can spend your only weekend on it.
Remember that after the official registration of marriage in your relationship, nothing will change. The stamp in the passport is not a magic pill, this is the final stage of creating a family. And the way with which habits and beliefs you and your partner enter into marriage will determine your entire future family life. So if you are in doubt whether you can live a life with the chosen person, then it is better to postpone the conclusion of the marriage.
9. You do not know yourself well
Do not rush to marry when you do not know yourself. This is especially true for young girls who think that otherwise the train will leave. He won’t go anywhere, but you better stay alone with yourself, get together on a trip with friends, understand who you would like to become in the future, study your habits and principles.
This is not so simple, but necessary to enter into a healthy relationship. First, find contact with your inner world, and then you can decide on a serious step.
8. Serious things are not finished
If you have serious unfinished business, especially related to finances, then do not rush to marry a man. Indeed, since your union officially unites, a man will have an impact on all your finances and property.
7. Afraid of loneliness
In this case, marriage is contraindicated for you. Because in a fit of fear, a small number of people know how to control themselves and act rationally. Most often in fear, we panic and grab onto any straw that looks like our salvation. That's the same with marriage: how do you choose a worthy man to create a strong family if your eyes remain in the veil of wild fear to be alone?
“All men will be taken apart”, “All normal men have been married for a long time”, “There are no men left” - all this is stereotypical nonsense. Exhale and remember: you need to get married not out of fear of loneliness, but out of mutual love.
6. There is no understanding why you need marriage
If you agree to the marriage proposal just because all your girlfriends have long jumped out to marry, then marriage can initially be considered doomed. Maybe he will not end in divorce, but he certainly will not be happy.
Answer honestly the question of why you want to get married. For the sake of parental approval? For a lush wedding and white dress? For the admiration of friends and acquaintances?
If you don’t have a clear answer, why are you so desperately tearing down the aisle, then ask yourself, do you really want this?
5. You are ashamed to live with a man out of wedlock
Cohabitation is generally a moot point. If you want to be a legal wife, and your man believes that the stamp in your passport will not change anything, do you need such a man? After all, you obviously have different opinions about marriage.
If it’s really uncomfortable for you to be a “neighbor” and it is important to feel like a legal wife, then talk to your man. After all, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be legally married, especially when you understand that you are in a hurry to get married not because of fear, but because of a wild desire and love for your partner.
4. You think you will not find anyone better
This is not the most sensible thought that can rush through a person’s head before marriage. Because if you doubt whether this is the person, then you will unconsciously look at other potential partners. Compare them with your existing boyfriend, find flaws in your boyfriend. So close to treason.
But is it worth it to marry a person if you are sure that you can find better? Do not waste either yours or his time. Still, time is a non-recoverable resource.
3. You have a mismatch on important issues
Before marriage, be sure to discuss important issues with your partner and decide whether you look at the solution to these issues with him equally.
How many children do you want? Do you want children at all? And what will you do if the baby is born with abnormalities? And what will the husband do if the wife is seriously ill?
Do not neglect the discussion of serious issues. After all, if your views categorically do not coincide, maybe you should not rush to submit an application?
2. Do you want children, no matter with whom
Getting married for children is a stupid decision. In case of an unhappy marriage, you can always divorce your husband. But what to do with a bad father? Still, the role of the parent is forever, you should take it responsibly. After all, children feel any emotional discord in the relationship between parents.
Do you want a child with a healthy psyche, do you want to provide him with a happy childhood? Then enter into a happy marriage and have a baby from the man you love.
Modern society does not blame either mothers or single fathers. So if a child wants to be stronger than to find a good husband, you can give birth to a baby without marriage “if only with someone”. Of course, there are certain difficulties behind this, so think three times before dwelling on such an option.
1. You have nowhere to live
You should not marry if you and your partner do not have the foundation for later life. Do not know where to live after marriage? Remember that living with parents after marriage is the most terrible choice that newlyweds can stop at. Two families on the same territory is a complete conflict. Parents will get into your life, give advice and unnecessary comments.
Do you really want to spoil the first candy-bouquet months of living together? Hardly. So do not rush to marriage if you do not have a separate housing from your parents.