Every woman wants to feel in a relationship that she is needed, interesting and still attractive to her man. This is manifested in everything - in his words, actions, his behavior alone and in public, as well as in the time that he is ready to devote to relations.
A man needs love all his life, without exception, because that is why we unite in monogamous couples with our chosen one. But sometimes we just make a mistake in choosing this satellite and spend our lives next to the wrong person. The following 10 signs will help you understand that a man has cooled down in his feelings, which means that he is not your true soul mate at all.
10. Does not compliment
Only a man who does not show serious intentions and feelings with his actions will sprinkle with sweet speeches and “suns”. Although women love “with their ears”, it is precisely his deeds that characterize a real man, a defender and a “reliable wall”. But even an active man and all of himself “alpha male” will always find a good word for his companion. He will soften her name, periodically recall his feelings, mention how he appreciates spending time with her. If tenderness and care in words disappear from the relationship, and replaced by irritation and detachment, then the man probably cooled to you and pulls the relationship by inertia, respecting the years lived together.
9. Criticizing appearance
When a man falls in love with a woman, he accepts her as she is and will always find dignity. Even the flaws in appearance seem to him to be features, cute or funny nuances that make a person just like that. A loving man is glad to see you with a disheveled hair, sleepy in his pajamas, sick with a reddened face and cried from happiness. Even the weight gain after the winter holidays is not a reason for him to criticize. If you notice that a man looks irritably at your figure, is completely indifferent to a new look or wardrobe, drives to the gym or hints at the need to visit a hairdresser, then he no longer perceives you as you are. Simply put, feelings have passed - and you have ceased to arrange it.
8. Discusses your flaws with friends
This point follows from the above. It’s one thing to gently hint you that extra kilos have appeared or that a new hairstyle doesn’t really color. And it’s quite another to bring your flaws into discussion with other people, even family members or close friends. Criticism of your behavior, appearance, character traits, words and actions in front of others says only that the man is looking for support from the outside. Like, you see, how it does not suit me, so my departure from the relationship is completely justified. A loving man may notice your flaws, and they even bother him periodically, but he will only talk about it in private and correctly so as not to form an inferiority complex in a person.
7. Poor in your habits
Habits of a person are his features. And if at the beginning of the relationship they amaze and touch, then after the dispersal of the “pink haze” they suddenly begin to annoy. Women have a lot of men's nervous habits, as we have a tactical type of thinking and a more developed right hemisphere. We a priori cannot think in life aspects identically. Another thing is that a loving man appreciates this dissimilarity and even finds advantages, which allows him to work in tandem for the benefit of the family. If the partner has cooled down, then your personality will begin to annoy him, he will try to actively redraw you in his own way, to re-educate. Quibbling over trifles is a clear sign that a person is looking for a way and a reason to destroy relations.
6. Doesn't listen to what you are saying
A man in love is ready to listen to women's stories for hours, knowing that this process can take all his free time. He is even ready to hang on the phone, ignoring the opportunity to play a computer or sit in a cafe with friends. At the same time, the guy often overpowers himself, since it is physically difficult for him to concentrate on the topics of the life of stars, fashionable rags and effective diets. If a man interrupts your chatter about anything, shows a bored expression on his face or avoids talking at all, then most likely he is not ready to put up with your society.
5. Your tears make him angry
Often, female tears are a means of manipulating others. The man is not characteristic of capricious behavior, but he is indulgent towards the tantrums of his beloved woman and even tries to calm her, save her from her own bells and whistles, and solve her problems. If your partner used to calmly relate to your tears, and now he cannot stand the look of pouty lips, gets annoyed, screams and tries to get away - his heart hardened towards you. You yourself achieved this with your tantrums, or he met another - it is not known, but you will not catch a man more than “crocodile tears”.
4. Does not support flirting, does not flirt
In a healthy relationship, flirting, games, cute teasing and childishness persist throughout life. If people are separated or long at work, then gentle correspondence, naughty messages, cute gifts and surprises, as well as touches, enliven feelings, help to overcome routine and life. It is on such trifles and flirting that communication between people of the opposite sex is built. If a man does not answer your flirting, avoids kisses and hugs, does not want to hold his hand and rarely smiles - then the fire of your relationship will soon go out.
3. Negatively responding to requests
A man loves to be needed, solve problems, come to the aid of his beloved woman. His rational mind, analytics and logic help us women in any life situation, because we tend to get lost and react emotionally. If your requests, even the most insignificant ones, cause irritation in the man, or he addresses you to other people with them, then write in vain. Pay attention to how enthusiastically a man listens to your problems, whether he fulfills his agreed responsibilities at home, whether he keeps his word, does he participate in family life at all.
2. Not at all jealous
In a healthy relationship, there should be neither jealousy itself, nor reasons for it. But all people, despite the trust, in the soul do not want increased attention to their soul mate. This is especially true for men who, having chosen their companion once, do not want to demonstrate her best qualities to other representatives of the sex. You used to notice a man’s jealousy or pride when others paid attention to you. Perhaps only one oblique or stern look betrayed the fact that he dislikes the gesture shown to you or random flirting. Now he is showing indifference, and he himself can glance in the direction of other girls, which should be considered an alarming sign.
1. Does not protect against dangers
Each person in life should rely on himself, not play the role of the victim and not go on defenselessness. But still, a man objectively understands his physical superiority, psychological stability and the ability to adequately analyze life circumstances. Therefore, he considers it his duty to protect a woman from rash acts, life vicissitudes and even possible ailments. Often this manifests itself in the desire to "pull" a hat on you in a winter cold, to meet late at night after work or a walk with a girlfriend, to worry about dinner if you are sick and unable to cook it. A man who has cooled down does not feel like a “superhero” next to a girl and leaves her alone with troubles.
Unfortunately, this can happen even in the most stable and outwardly harmonious pairs. People can change tastes, outlook on life and character, so the cooling of feelings can not be predicted. But every trouble is a life lesson though. Try to think why it happened. It may be that the man's feelings subsided, are you directly or indirectly to blame?